If You Will Continue Doing These Things In A Gay Relationship, You Will End Up With “Gay Relationshit”

If You Will Continue Doing These Things In A Gay Relationship, You Will End Up With “Gay Relationshit”

 

Compromise is such a sweet ingredient in every relationship, may it be gay or straight. But in gay relationships, there are some mistakes that must be avoided to sustain happiness. You might not know your relationship is already doomed to wreckage while you are practicing some of these mistakes that will lead to an irreparable consequence.

 

Open relationship

I don’t know if there is still a need for us to discuss any further. But an open relationship is indeed a big no-no in a gay relationship. It’s like having too many stopovers along the way that later on you are no longer inclined to continue the journey with your “partner.” Maybe because you became bored or you found a “happier” place to stay in or a better person to stay with. It’s quite a sugar-coated mistake that most gay relationships commit. They think that having such kind of setup will bring them in a not-so-controlling environment. But the truth is such kind of relationship is not cultivating something for the future.

 

Are you open with an open relationship?
Are you open to an open relationship?

 

The user-friendly mode in a relationship.

Let’s admit it, we get certain perks and privileges once we are in a relationship. Some of which includes great sex, financial security, and connections that you might not have in the first place. After all, we usually say that in a relationship “kung ano ang akin ay saiyo na rin.” But no matter how comfortable we get in such kind of relationship but we are no longer happy, then we’d better leave. Yet, what we think usually is the loss of the things that we have been so acquainted with. But if the only things that make us stay in the relationship are sex, money and everything in between, do we think that we are fully happy and do we really love our partner? It’s about time to decide.

 

what do you look for in a relationship?
what do you look for in a relationship?

 

Making friends with other guys or hooking up?

The rise of different dating apps paved the way for easy access hook up among gay men. But if you are in a relationship, do you think that having apps like Grindr, PlanetRomeo and the like would just be a form of making friends or networking? Oh c’mon! If you truly  love your partner and you would like to have a lasting relationship with him, then it’s about time to drop those alibis just for you to satisfy your lust while your boyfriend isn’t around.

 

App-flirt-ation.
App-flirt-ation.

 

No sex talk, please.

I have a friend and he is quite proud that he and his boyfriend are already in their 3rd year as a couple and they haven’t had sex yet. I was like, seriously?! I don’t think it’s a bad thing to acknowledge that we gay men are known for the undying hunger for sex. And besides, who would you talk about it with? It’s better to open it up with your partner rather than cheat on him or never sprinkle your relationship with something to make it more “exciting.” Besides, whatever is not being talked about can never be done.

 

If not today, not tomorrow, then when?
If not today, not tomorrow, then when?

 

Stay “status”unchecked.

In a straight relationship, potential partners will look into the background of the other. In other words, ‘yong walang sabit. In the gay relationship arena, what we’re looking into is the status of a person potential for a relationship whether they are positive or negative. I am not saying that HIV-positive gay men are not the type for an eventual partner. Please don’t get me wrong. What I am trying to say is that both gay men in a relationship must take the time to be checked and always be updated with their status. At least, you are aware of your standing and what you should do if you are positive. Besides, both of you must be open about it. It’s part of transparency and honesty in a relationship.

 

Be aware. Be both aware and transparent.
Be aware. Be both aware and transparent.

 

It’s never too late to mend some ways in your present  relationship. So long that you are open with different possibilities and you and your partner are willing to commit to a lifelong or at least long-term relationship, then you must do away with these mistakes. One mistake doesn’t have to rule a person’s entire life. And everyone makes mistakes. The important thing is not to make the same mistake twice.

 

If You Will Continue Doing These Things In A Gay Relationship, You Will End Up With “Gay Relationshit”

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Joemar is the Blogger-In-Chief of BaklaPoAko.Com. He is currently a graduate student in University of the Philippines Open University. He also studied at Maquillage Professionnel School of Makeup Artistry and School of Fashion and the Arts (SoFA). He is a bold advocate of education, environment and LGBT issues. An earner, dreamer and a lover. Before he was once a dream-sprouting seed. Now he's a tree in his renaissance and will always be evergreen. Hear him speak with his intelligent guide for gay news of the Philippines and worldwide, Bakla Po Ako. Confirmed!.Follow him on Twitter @belleza_joemar. Gay it forward!
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Joemar is the Blogger-In-Chief of BaklaPoAko.Com. He is currently a graduate student in University of the Philippines Open University. He also studied at Maquillage Professionnel School of Makeup Artistry and School of Fashion and the Arts (SoFA). He is a bold advocate of education, environment and LGBT issues. An earner, dreamer and a lover. Before he was once a dream-sprouting seed. Now he's a tree in his renaissance and will always be evergreen. Hear him speak with his intelligent guide for gay news of the Philippines and worldwide, Bakla Po Ako. Confirmed!. Follow him on Twitter @belleza_joemar. Gay it forward!