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4 Reasons Why A Straight Guy Is A “Yummy Delicacy” For Gay Men

I always have some sort of a “phobia” with straight men because of the obvious homophobia that some men are capable of showing to gay men, too. That is why I promised myself never ever to have any first move with straight men in friendship or any social interaction. For 21 years, I was able to do that. Not since I get to know gay friends who have this thirst and hunger for straight men. Then it made me wonder, what is it in straight men which made SOME gay men pursue them?

Please let me reiterate with so much conviction: NOT ALL GAY MEN PURSUE STRAIGHT GUYS! PLEASE COUNT ME IN! It is definitely and ultimately politically incorrect when we say that we gay men would hit any male (either gay or straight) without considering acceptable etiquette and social norms.

Obviously, there are plenty of straight men who have been fallen victims in the idea that gay men will always hit on them. Puh-leezzz! Yet, let us also accept the fact that at times we whisper with each other how we fantasized straight men in porn and how it’s like to have sexual contact with them instead of having an upfront confession that we really do hunger for them. Let me reiterate it: AT TIMES-NOT ALL THE TIME-AND NOT ALL GAY MEN.

So here are some top reasons why SOME gay men opt straight men for a companion or for sexual desires.

4. Homophobia from within

This is probably the reason why a lot of gay men are quite discreet or “paminta.” They have this homophobia that they feel from within that is actually rooted from the trauma that they may have faced because of coming out as gay. Mostly on gay dating sites, I always see preferences like “straight-acting, masculine or discreet” guys. However at times, gay men are not able to get the preference that they like. So they’d rather go for straight men.

3. Risk derived from pursuing straight men

Let’s admit it, straight men are quite an off-limit desire for most gay men. My friend, a discreet gay, told me the adrenaline rush that he gets every time he makes “aura” to a straight guy (like tambay, kargador, or any random straight guy) and able to hit on them. For a gay like me who has homophobia from within, I may be thinking that it can lead to humiliation, assault (emotional or physical) or even unlikely outcomes like death. Yet, that is the risk derived from pursuing men and the fruits of it once you get a chance to really hit on a straight guy, according to my straight-hungry gay friend, is sooooo masarap! It adds to sexual arousal, he said.

2. Straight men as an authority figure

I usually see in gay porn’s “role play” where a teacher, coach, boss, policeman, soldier or someone who has the authority casting “pleasure” to surrendering gay men. Aminin! It’s quite a feast to behold. One reason probably lies in the fact that it is a pleasure—at least in fantasy–to see straight men validate or accept gay men as they are. Unlike, in reality, it is not very common and there’s a stigma attached to it.

1. Feeling of acceptance

Most gay men I spoke with about the reason why it is a nice thing to have sex with straight men is the feeling of acceptance that can be attached to it. Long has been those times wherein straight men (like our father, teacher, coach, etc.) would not accept us as a sissy boy or those “malamya” type that we usually call gay men now. We have been discriminated all our lives by mostly straight men. That’s the same reason why we direct to them both our positive as well as negative sentiments. And, indeed, tasting some of them will make us feel accepted once in a while.

When we were young, we always looked forward to getting the approval of the straight men in our lives. But reality bites and we can never bite back the reality that as we grow old it is very hard to achieve such goal. And probably the easiest way to do it is to satisfy them sexually. But let us always remember that there are a lot of issues we gay men must face rather than just knowing how to hit or seduce a straight guy. Also, it is not a safe track to take if you are looking for Mr. Right. Always remember, savor the shaft of a chance you are given to a straight guy but never swallow the squirts of fake and ethereal pleasures of such sexual contact.

4 Reasons Why A Straight Guy Is A “Yummy Delicacy” For Gay Men

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Joemar is the Blogger-In-Chief of BaklaPoAko.Com. He is currently a graduate student in University of the Philippines Open University. He also studied at Maquillage Professionnel School of Makeup Artistry and School of Fashion and the Arts (SoFA). He is a bold advocate of education, environment and LGBT issues. An earner, dreamer and a lover. Before he was once a dream-sprouting seed. Now he's a tree in his renaissance and will always be evergreen. Hear him speak with his intelligent guide for gay news of the Philippines and worldwide, Bakla Po Ako. Confirmed!.Follow him on Twitter @belleza_joemar. Gay it forward!